My phuntsokcholing
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Code of conduct, confidential advisor & house rules

Phuntsok Chö Ling focuses on promoting compassion, based on this vision, all forms transgressive behavior are rejected.

Purpose of the code of conduct

The purpose of this code of conduct against sexual harassment, violence, transgressive behavior, bullying and discrimination is to create a safe and pleasant environment during all activities from Phuntsok Chö Ling. This includes meetings and informal meetings. This code of conduct indicates which behavior is undesired within our organization and cannot be tolerated. In addition, the code of conduct is intended to protect those who are victims of undesirable behavior or who experience discrimination and wish to file a complaint.

Scope 

This code of conduct applies to:

  • – all members of Phuntsok Chö Ling;
  • – the (guest) teachers or lama (s) of Phuntsok Chö Ling;
  • – all persons working on behalf of our foundation;
  • – all visitors to our center.

Definitions

Undesirable behavior: any form of verbal, non-verbal or physical behavior, which the person who is guilty of it knows or should know that it affects the dignity of persons within the community and / or in which the person to whom the behavior is addressed considers this to be clearly undesirable. This may become apparent, for example, if it creates an intimidating hostile or demeaning atmosphere towards the person affected.

Sexual Harassment: Any unwanted behavior of a sexual nature is unacceptable. This may become apparent, for example, if such behavior is intimidating, unwanted, unreasonable or offensive to the person affected by it. Examples: annoying invitations, inappropriate touches or inappropriate display of sexually oriented images.

Different roles are sometimes assumed within the organization, such as that of trainer, board member, facilitator or teacher. Although there should always be equality, in whatever role, there can sometimes be an (alleged / felt) power relationship. In such a relationship, the person who fulfill the role of teacher, coach, trainer, etc., must be extra alert to keeping his / her own behavior pure and to signals and behavior from others. A combination of a teacher or trainer role with a personal relationship should be avoided, because cross-border behavior from the assumed role can occur here while this does not have to be cross-border within the personal relationship. Therefore, in such a circumstance, the ratio of roles from Phuntsok Chö Ling should be changed / terminated.

Violence: any form of psychological pressure, harassment, threat or physical unwanted contact.

Bullying: any form of recurrent behavior that can express itself in words and / or behaviors, the object or effect of which is to affect a person’s personality, dignity, mental or physical integrity, or a threatening, hostile, insulting humiliating or hurtful environment is created.

Discrimination: making oral or written statements about others because of their race, color, origin, religion, gender, disability, age, beliefs or sexual orientation; to commit acts against others or to distinguish between individuals because of their race, color, origin, religion, sex, disability, age, beliefs or sexual orientation.

The complaints procedure
A victim (or witness) of violence, harassment, discrimination or unwanted sexual behavior can turn to the confidential advisor: paul(at)phuntsokcholing.org. When attempts to solve the problem informally are appropriate, this will be considered first, in close consultation between the reporter and the confidential counselor. If this is considered inadequate or if this appears inadequate after attempts made, for example because the perpetrator does not show a change in behavior or shows other behavior that can also be considered undesirable, the victim can follow the procedure below. The confidential counselor can help the victim (but not take over) on request.

  • Drawing up a written and motivated complaint. As soon as the confidential advisor receives the complaint, he / she makes this known to the board of Phuntsok Chö Ling. If the (suspected) perpetrator is a member of the board, he/she will not participate in discussing this matter.
  • If necessary, interviews are held with the victims and possible witnesses to clarify the matter for the board and the confidential advisor.
  • A confidential report is drawn up on the situation by the board.
  • Lama Jigme is notified and he can chose to engage in a conversation with those involved.
  • The confidential advisor and / or the board (to be determined in mutual consultation) will hold one or more interviews with the (alleged) perpetrator. This can be periodic if it suits the situation. Depending on the outcome of the interviews, the board can take appropriate measures. In serious cases this may include suspension of all activities related to Phuntsok Chö Ling and / or reporting to the national Reporting Center for Harassment.

If, for whatever reason, the victim does not wish to turn to the internal confidential advisor, he / she can directly contact a (chosen) member of the board. Which will then take on the role of the confidential counselor in the further process. If, after following this process, it has not been possible to achieve sufficient change of behavior, it may be considered to consult the national counselor of the Buddhist Union of the Netherlands. https://boeddhisme.nl/groepering/externe-vertrouwenspersonen/

 

HOUSE RULES

These house rules have been set up to ensure a pleasant experience and safe environment for all of our members and visitors. We believe in the concept of “Others over Self” and respect for
all living beings. Thank you for taking these rules into account and please help others to follow them too.

1. No shoes in the temple.
2. Greet the Buddha and the teacher when you enter the temple.
3. Respect the teacher (Lama Jigmé Namgyal) and the teaching methods.
4. Show respect, kindness and support towards your fellow students and Sangha members.
5. Show respect for the volunteers that facilitate the events.
6. Speak respectfully and at a low volume when inside the temple, no personal conversations inside the temple, these should be held outside.
7. When in the Temple, do not point your feet at the teacher. In Buddhist tradition this is considered as disrespectful.
8. No open food or drink containers are allowed inside the temple. (Bottled drinks with a cap are allowed.)
9. Be mindful and trust the environment.
10. Control your emotions and responses, if you feel the need to express your emotions loudly, please do so outside the temple as to not disturb other students. (Disturbing other students might lead to your removal from class.)
11. Be on time for the scheduled events. The times are available on our website, please respect other people’s time by showing up on time for an event.
12. During classes please only ask questions regarding the current subject. No personal questions or questions regarding different subjects. Personal questions can be asked after the class.
13. Treat all utilities and temple facilities with respect and clean up after yourself. Turn off the lights when not needed etc. Help others with their chores if and when you can.
14. The foyer area is not a living room, bed room, storage room or an extension of your house. This means that the couch is not for sleeping, the closets and cupboards only store temple property etc. Please treat this area with respect.
15. The use of alcohol, drugs or other illegal substances is strictly prohibited, this also applies to being intoxicated on the premises.
16. Bullying, gossiping, (sexual) harassment and any other form of negative behavior will not be tolerated. This will lead to immediate removal from the temple premises and termination of membership.

“Do not lose your own path, do not disturb others’ minds”
His Holiness Jigme Phuntsok Rinpoche (1933 – 2004)